Well, did you know that holding a grudge is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die? Believe me when I say that If you hold a grudge against somebody, you are the one who pays the price more that the person who has wronged you.
What am I trying to share with you this week? A long lasting grudge will only drain you physically, spiritually and emotionally and can surely affect your health. I wouldn't appreciate it if depression will find you and before you know it many other diseases have caught up with you. The reason being you were busy holding a grudge against somebody.
When you are holding a grudge you use more energy on the issue than letting go. By this I mean, if you are there and still holding a grudge against somebody, it's high time you let it go. Letting go allows room for peace and happiness, and I am sure that both you and me deserve to be happy.
You can forgive and move on. Forgiving doesn't mean you will forget the issue just like that but It's just acknowledging your differences and accepting that no one is perfect and we all make mistakes we should learn from. Forgiving isn't the easiest thing to do especially when you've endured a lot of hurt and pain, but it's the only way to truly let go and have peace.
Once you have decided to move on, keep on moving. Don't again put too much thought into the situation or continuously discussing it. It will only make things worse and harder to get over. If ever the issue is brought up in conversation, change the subject or just look at it as the past and leave it there.
For how long will you continue to hold that grudge? I know some people want the other person to apologise first before they forgive. Well, choose to create your own healing, with or without an apology. Don't wait for the person you are upset with to come around.
For all you know they are already past the issue and not putting as much thought into it.
Even if they don't offer an apology, it doesn't mean they are not remorseful. Some people are unable to apologize or may not fully understand that the person they hurt may need to hear one. I pray that God will help you to realize that you can not spend the rest of your life holding that grudge, but you can let it go and move on with your life. Have a good weekend.